PRE MARITAL SEX !! IMAGINE IT TO BE A COIN....FLIP IT...

Touchy....that's what this topic really is.A lot has been been said about it.Huge amounts of pages have been devoted to it by the print media.Everybody has an opinion on this topic. Everyone has something to say about it.This topic creates instant awareness. Our ears perk up like those of a dog and we are on full alert when somebody speaks about it.My personal gut feeling is that this immortal subject cannot be labeled as a topic which can be classified as RIGHT or WRONG.It is like a coin.Let us take heads to be right and tails to be wrong.When you flip the coin you never know which side is going to show up....

In today's society which moves faster than a dog with it's tail on fire,pre-marital sex is a big deal for some and cow dung for the others.I support both the classes,not because I am a dastard diplomat but because the pros and cons of both these classes intrigue me.

Firstly I will look at the case of the people who are in favor of pre marital sex.The common reasons given for indulging in pre marital sex are:

• I love the person so much that I am sure..I will be spending the rest of my life with the person.
• What's the harm in having some fun???
• I separate lust and love when I am having sex...I do it just because I favor lust.
• I did not know what I was doing!!!
• What is the harm in experimenting???

Well some of the reasons are authentic.Sometimes we lose our heads in the heat and passion of the moment,sometimes we do it just for fun and sometimes ....just sometimes we do it to express our love.Women are those who suffer from casual pre marital sex because they tend to attach themselves to the person they share the bed with....but nowadays even they seem to be ready for one night stands.Our Indian society which still heavily banks on arranged marriages has a lot of reservations about women who have lost their virginity.Hypocritical some might say...but then that is the way it is.Old Hindi movies tend to support this point with their melodramatic dialogs."Main tumhare bachche ki maa banne waali hoon!!!" or "Ab main tumhe chod kar kisi aur se shaadi nahi karoonga!!!". Spare us please..... The point is it will always remain a tabooed topic amongst the older generation while the generation next is trying to embrace it.I would like to make my closing statement about this case saying that.......indulge in it only if both the individuals are ready to face the consequences.Do not let other people suffer and bear the brunt of your act.....If you are mature enough to have sex ....you must be mature enough to give this statement a thought.

Now the other case...People who condemn pre marital sex put forth the following views...

• What if the girl gets pregnant???
• My parents would kill/disown me.
• I am impotent....(Now this is a joke....no offense meant).
• It is best for our lives.
• What will other people think???

I may have missed some important points,but the above I think are the most common ones.Well some of them are right.If the girl gets pregnant...she will either have to abort the child or face hell from her parents or find her life ruined in today's world or bravely give birth to the child and become a young mother(In most cases...the father flees like a scalded dog...but some stay put mind you...).People brush if off by saying that they are careful and they use contraceptives...blah!! blah!! but the fact is that condoms work only 60% of the times and contraceptive pills are not fool proof.In the west it is acceptable to conceive a child before marriage but we should pay some respect to our Indian morals and not ape the west blindly.the biggest factor is WHAT WILL OTHER PEOPLE SAY??? Sadly it is a fact and some people have nothing better to do than to spread rumors and gloat at the other person's misery.Therefore the people supporting this side of the fence have some valid points indeed......


When I scroll back and read my blog once again to arrive at a consensus ...I simply cannot...Both the parties have valid points and both of them have major faults....It is just one of those things you cannot take by the horns and earn your matador's medal with.I am undecided and therefore declare that ...take sides after giving it a deep thought....because in the end if you FEEL it is right....it probably is....and no....my expertise on contraceptives does not mean that I have had practical experience....he he....Until the next time try to digest my grammatical errors and try to put up with them... So which side of the coin did you get???